My name is Mona Lane. I’ve been helping families with Advance Planning for the past 18 years.
It’s that time of year – the Holidays! But also a time when I become fairly unpopular. No matter how much fun my appointments are, the laughter we share, the hugs at the end, the satisfaction knowing that funeral/cremation plans have finally been made, I am persona non grata beginning with Thanksgiving week.
I get it…I think. Who wants to talk about depressing stuff around the holidays? I love meeting people and helping them prearrange, so it’s not depressing to me. People I call have been telling me for weeks to “get with me after the holidays.” After 18 years of this, I accept it without arguing.
These years have also taught me that life happens during the holidays too. Mothers will get a cancer diagnosis, fathers will have a stroke, husbands will have a freak accident, wives will have a car accident. So for many families “after the holidays” is a bit late for them. I have no crystal ball, so I simply say: “I’ll give you a call in January.” Then the excuses will run more like: it’s so cold, call me when it’s warmer, we’re heading to Florida, call us in the spring….but I digress.
There are a handful of people I have already met who are planning to discuss their funeral plans during holiday gatherings. This is what they tell me. This is what I know: “No. You won’t.” In theory it sounds like a great idea, everyone is here, we can discuss this together. In reality, the grandkids and the great grandkids are there too. The family is happy. What better time to discuss your funeral plans? So I know your intentions are good, but I also know you won’t go through with it. I will call you in January and you will say: “I’ll see them all again at Easter.”
My suggestion, that never wavers, is to make your plans and tell your family very simply that you’ve taken care of your funeral/cremation planning. It’s not a bombshell that ruins your holiday gathering and it’s a gift your family will appreciate later.
Feel free to call me at 260-466-3465 with questions regarding funeral or cremation planning. I am here to help no matter what time of year it is!